There comes a time in some people’s lives when their aspirations for their children begin to match or even exceed their aspirations for themselves.
It has happened to me ever since I became a mother myself. As a result, I’ve been on a mission for years to gather as much science-based advice as possible about raising successful children.
Here are five of the most interesting and useful strategies I’ve found and featured recently. Science suggests that if you want to do good for your kids, you should probably do these things.
1. Let them do chores.
Researchers at La Trobe University in Australia recently determined whether children who did chores at home would develop better working memory, inhibition and other success-predicting behaviors.
They divided chores into three categories: self-care, caring for others, and caring for pets. In the peer-reviewed Australian Occupational Therapy Journal, they said their studies showed that children who did self-care and other care tasks were, in fact, more likely to exhibit better academic performance and problem-solving skills.
But pet care chores did nothing for the children’s later development anyway.
Why not? Maybe it’s because taking care of pets isn’t as strenuous as other chores, or maybe because the kids haven’t really seen the kinds of things you need to do to take care of a dog (walking her, feeding him, etc.). ) be work.
The bottom line though? Let your kids do chores. They may not like the idea to begin with, but you have the science on your side.
2. Teach them to be polite.
This one focuses on three specific words: please, thank you, and you’re welcome.
Teaching children to say “please” when they ask for something can reinforce their tendency to be polite, making them more persuasive as they get older. Teaching them to say “thank you” usually encourages gratitude, which encourages happiness and makes it easier to deal with stress.
And teaching them to say “you’re welcome” boosts confidence by emphasizing that the things they do for others are worthy of being thanked. (This is especially true when you put “you’re welcome” next to other things people say in response to “thank you,” such as “no worries!” or “no problem!”)
3. Work on their emotional intelligence.
Children who develop emotional intelligence also develop “a greater chance of graduating, getting a good job, and just being happy,” according to Rachael Katz and Helen Shwe Hadani, authors of The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Parenting Self-Esteem. Aware, Cooperative, and Well-Balanced Children.
There are many things you can do to develop emotional intelligence (many more are listed here), but in the beginning model how well you think and use emotions for them, ask them for their ideas and try not to judge .
Oh, and remember that kids are just that: kids. It is often unfair to expect them to react and react to things the way adults would (or at least should!).
4. Send them to video games.
wait what? Tell them to play video games?
Yes indeed. A new study from Europe that used a “huge” amount of data found that children who spend an above-average amount of time playing them end up with higher IQs than children who spend their screen time watching videos or scrolling through social media.
Children today, on average, spent an enormous amount of time in front of screens. In any case, this study of 5,000 children suggests that if they start using that many screens, the higher the percentage of that time they spend on video games, the better.
5. Help them discover their passion(s).
This study was fascinating. Researchers in Scandinavia wanted to determine whether passion, guts or mindset was the most important factor in predicting young people’s success, particularly in an athletic context.
In short, passion was found to be much better at predicting whether children were successful; while mindset and grit might have predicted that young people would keep trying to succeed, it was passion that best predicted whether they would.
“For people who are the best of the best in their field, passion is definitely the biggest factor. It’s the essential key to success,” said one researcher.
So, when kids are kids, let them explore different things to determine what they are really passionate about. That’s where they have the best chance of becoming the absolute best in their field.
Listen, whatever we do as entrepreneurs, chances are our children will be a big part of our legacy.
That’s why I’m so interested in these little hacks, which is why I’ve put together a very free ebook full of similar tips and tricks: How to Raise Successful Kids (7th Edition).
There is always another study with another interesting piece of information to consider. I read and share as many as I can so you don’t have to search for them.
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